Myla was an amazing postpartum doula. When I first met her, I tanew instantly that she was the right person for the job. She has this incredibly loving gentle way about her that comes across without any pretense or show.
The first night we got home from the hospital, Myla came over and without any prompts she immediately began a subtle observation of the space so she knew where dishes went, where to take recycling and trash, where to store the compost, and all the daily aspects of living that we were probably too tired to explain! She gave me a fantastic neck and shoulder massage (pushing a baby out really did a number on me!) and most importantly, she was a gentle continual support with breastfeeding. I had a lot of anxiety about breastfeeding and the best and most wonderful thing that Myla gave me was the peace of mind that where I was with breastfeeding was OKAY and whatever I needed to help it along was also OKAY. Over the course of the next two weeks when my nipples seemed scabbed and blistered beyond repair, Myla went out and picked up nipple shields on her way over. A part of me felt like I was failing in some small way, but she wouldn’t let me entertain those thoughts and she celebrated the beauty of our feedings with her tremendous photography skills.
Myla helped us so much around the house and without my saying anything, she’d start cleaning the dishes in the sink, or putting away things in the kitchen. She’d help chop veggies for easy meal prep or do the laundry as needed. One time she made a great salad with prunes (after labor I needed a lot of help in that department)! Myla even taught me about babywearing and how to tie the moby wrap and the k’tan so I felt comfortable walking outside with my baby from the start!
One of the more memorable things that I took away from Myla’s help was her respect for the birthing and childcare process. She told me that as things progressed I’d often feel like I had taken “2 steps forward, 1 step back” and that became such a comforting mantra to me, like all the unknowns and “set-backs” and fussy moments were all okay and we’d get through them. Or we’d struggle. But it was all normal and okay! Eventually, we got to a place where feeding worked seamlessly. But, even now, though he’s almost 6 months old, I still hold on to that mantra as a coping mechanism for whenever an unexplainable fussiness or new situation comes along! Myla was just such a terrific comfort and I would recommend her postpartum support to any new mom without question.
~Bex & Phil, parents to Eli