I made a decision to have a natural unmedicated birth in a hospital, and I knew that I wanted a doula to help me achieve that goal. I heard about women feeling powerlessness during their labor because of being ignored or rushed to make decisions they weren’t ready to make, and I hoped that wouldn’t happen with me.
Myla came highly recommended by a friend of my husband’s because of their positive home birthing experience with her. After researching and interviewing 15 doulas and not being able to find one with the experience, energy and rate that I was comfortable with, I decided to set up a meeting with Myla. I instantly connected with her, she was strong without being overbearing, centered without being too granola, knowledgeable without making me feel clueless, and supportive of the vision I had for my delivery. I was particularly impressed with the number of births she had done, the training she received when supporting birth overseas, and her extensive experience with home and hospital births in NY. It was also helpful that she had worked with each of the four doctors in the OB practice of my choice.
During my labor Myla provided the encouragement I needed to stick with my birthing plan, offering such helpful words and guidance to make it very far, yet she was also flexible enough to support my choice to get an epidural when I truly felt I needed it. Her support during this shift was invaluable; she helped my husband with being involved in the process, instructed him on how best to help me and reassured him that things were going as planned when he started to get nervous. She quickly and effortlessly established a great relationship with my doctor and the nurse who both thanked her at the end for being so easy to work with. Myla provided that constant, familiar presence in an ever-changing, scary and new situation. I felt as though she was able to read our needs, yet gave us space when we needed it. She has such great instinct of how and when to step in to provide support and/or advocate when necessary. I also appreciated that she provided a special element of personal, spiritual, positive energy that I needed; I felt at times that she was family. After giving me hell about hiring a doula my husband admitted that she was worth every penny.